What’s Wrong With Aging?

American culture has a strange view on aging. In general our population denies aging – as if it’s not going to happen. What makes aging so wrong? The facts are that we age the moment we are born. Cells in the body die which are consistently replenished. In youth it happens quickly and unnoticed; in older ages that process has slowed. Cell replacement  still happens until we do actually die. There is nothing wrong with aging as a process. Aging just has different speeds.

In aging the rate of replacing worn out cells is based on factors in which we actually do have some control. Genetics plays a role, but lifestyle actually trumps genetics.

 Mindset

How we live day to day matters quite a bit, in fact how we think, feel, move, nourish ourselves, rest and sleep plays a huge role in the aging process. Stress by far is the biggest component to how well we age.

We all have some stress living the American lifestyle, but it is how we respond to stress that creates the problem. The glass half full vs. half empty attitude makes a huge difference.

Author Lauren Kessler wrote Counterclockwise in 2013 and did many anti-aging self-experiments. Her conclusion was clear as a bell: how we think about aging is what ages us!

Chronological vs. Biological Aging

We grow up and start freaking out on our 30th birthdays. By the time we hit 50 we are buying the casket with all the disparaging jokes made about getting old.

Dr. Christiane Northrup is an exciting voice speaking out about how to honor aging by gloriously stepping into our older years with grace and ease. She reminds us that we are not necessarily the numbers of years on the calendar, but biologically young by how well we take care of our bodies and mind. I totally agree with her and feel better and more vibrant now than 20 years ago. I endorse her book Goddesses Never Age where she encourages women to enhance human biology by changing aging attitudes.

In this period of time attitudes are changing about getting older and better. Boomers are smarter and asking for what they want, which does not include the end of their life spent in a nursing home facility.

 Honoring

First, we must honor elderhood. Many other wise cultures already pay respect and are inclusive to aging family members. As a young country, America has yet to learn this.

Second, one needs to take full responsibility for excellent self-care – no excuses.

Thirdly, releasing old resentments, past traumas, and regrets and living fully each and everyday in appreciation for life is the best way to assure health as we age.

Embrace all your years with enjoyment and gratitude. Rediscover the things that lift you and then do it! Add love to the mixture, starting with you first. Make aging right.

 

Spiral and look within!

Spiral and look within!

 

 

 

 

Healing Takes Time

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Change

When Life gives you a big hiccough and turns your world on its side, navigating daily activities is a challenge. Fortunately, the human body and psyche are resilient. Recovery from such an upset maybe as short as a few months or up to a year or more. Each person has their own healing timeline; there is no known amount of time it takes to recover. Events such as this happen to everyone in their lifetime and sometimes more than once.

It recently happened to me. I found myself partnerless and in daze for some time.

Life changing events are a growth spurts; I call it an opportunity  to look within and learn what my part has been and where to go next. Often times (although not always) the outcome on the other side is much better than before.

Healing Takes Time

Now that some time has passed and I feel refreshed, I am ready to embrace what life now has to offer. This is a clear indication one has moved beyond the crisis. Still some days I allow myself to grieve, be slow and only do essential things. Being gentle with myself  during this transition has brought me to a place of loving myself more than I did previously. Healing does take time and it’s a good thing.

My gratitude goes to Louise Hay teaching and philosophy, which I have embraced fully into my life. Taking a trip to Thailand in January 2015 to further study Heal Your Life philosophy and coaching deepened my insights giving me more tools for recovery to help others. I am so appreciative to have rediscovered this work and embrace the fact that healing takes time, thoughtfulness, kindness and a less busy schedule in order to reflect and heal. Often when a hurtful life event occurs, old buried events can resurface giving one an opportunity to heal those as well.

Using  supportive tools like homeopathy lends itself to support the energy of the mind, body and soul. To reconnect with joy, take time to allow healing to evolve. Be patient. Be honest. Be kind.

Come back to yourself….

Spiral and look within!

Spiral and look within!

One $ Trillion in One Year

COSTS:

In the United States it is a fact that the medical  cost of chronic illness is over one trillion  dollars in one year! Without changing anything it is unsustainable to this country. Not only does it cost $,  it takes a toll on quality of life and affects productivity at work.  More seriously, children are becoming chronically ill earlier than ever before. It is likely they may not see a healthy old age.

EFFECTS:

The top seven diseases that are robbing Americans from good health according to the Milken Institute Study are:

 Cancer, diabetes, hypertension, stroke, heart disease, pulmonary conditions and mental illness.  Who do you know with any of  these conditions? It is becoming clear that most of these diseases are preventable and in my experience can be reversed in many cases (though not all). But always, improvements CAN be made with changes. 

CHANGE THE EFFECTS:

My work in medicine has evolved over the span of 50 years working in the medical arena. In my first career in the critical care arena, I worked in both ICU’s and Emergency Departments. The cases I saw were a mix of trauma medicine and repeated acute exacerbations of chronic illnesses. Even when clearly counseled how to take better care of themselves, a percentage of patients were not able to make the changes to get well (i.e. stop smoking, exercise more, etc) . They’d come back in again and again.

Then 24 years ago I moved to Naturopathic Medicine where I have again witnessed some similar patterns. People try to make changes they know they need to do, but often do not find success.

SO WHAT IS IT?

My observation is that people do not BELIEVE  things can change for themselves. Some insidious (often unconscious) inner voice keeps an old pattern of not taking good care of themselves alive. It is getting clearer to me as I work with folks the  truth of this. There are some people when I coach for wellness they start to see the light of change. It is  glorious to witness! Change always starts from the inside.

Belief in yourself begins with loving yourself totally and deeply. Feel good about taking the best care of yourself.

And your disease can begin to change.

Heal Your Life

Heal Your Life

 

On Turning 70 with Red Boots On!

From zero to 70 in a flash! That is what it feels like as I reflect my last 70 years of life. Successes and failures have been woven into my life, all teaching me something.  It is my hope to never stop learning. I have figured out that now that I have turned 70, the rest of life is easy!
 Last Saturday friends and family gathered to mark this auspicious decade with me. Sentiments were shared about what my life has meant to other others; expressing thoughts of love, warmth, healing and kindness.
Never sure how others viewed me, it was deeply refreshing to hear the words spoken about my work, genuine love for me and how I connect to others.  Letting in these words of sincerity and cheer is easier than ever before. Taking in and feeling the resonance, I am so grateful to be alive celebrating  my life.
Everyone deserves to hear such kind messages and to celebrate a well lived life.
What have been my biggest challenges? Learning to love myself and letting go of that inner critic! I now understand ( it’s called wisdom) the importance of being present in each moment, listening to others, welcoming  the connection to other beings, and letting go of comparison with the world. I now realize that some things really don’t matter that much.  Thank Goddess, life has gotten easier.
What will the next decade bring? I invite more adventure and travel, create time in the garden building ever more beauty,  spend quiet time with meaningful people with deep conversations and play with babies!
 One of the best gifts I received for my birthday are these RED cowgirl boots!
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I want to kick up more fun and sass!  These boots represent the quiet rebel living inside who wants to be herself completely. I believe that as I age what keeps me going is my vitality and an even greater zest for life. Yahoo!
 I feel strong, vibrant and ready for continuing  adventures and creative projects. I look forward to  next decade to unfold! Will you ride with me with your red boots?
May all birthdays be celebratory! Pamela

The Magic of Believing in Yourself

Beliefs are very powerful! The beliefs created that you still are unconsciously following  are formed by about five years of age. As an adult, you carry beliefs about your self-worth, talents, relationships, career, health, and prosperity that were developed in childhood. Some of these ideas are conscious, but many of them reside in the unconscious mind, affecting your behavior without you realizing it. They are like sunglasses, tinting your view of the world. The balance of negative and positive ideas you learned about yourself growing up results in your level of self-esteem.

 

When beliefs shift,  life can change dramatically if we choose. Come learn more about how you can take charge of how your life is managed.  Here is how you create the magic of believing in yourself:

  • Understand how “unconscious” beliefs have affected you up until now, and what to do to change them
  • Discover how to use affirmations and visualizations to create a path for the future you want
  • Develop a stronger connection with your Inner Guidance
  • Understand how you can be the star of your own life, directing and writing your own script

Date: Sunday July 27th, 2014

Time: 1-4 PM

Place: New Renaissance Bookshop

1338 NW 23rd Ave, Portland, OR 97210

Register by Calling 503.224.4929 

Investment: $30

 

Create Your Life!

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The Value of Prevention

This was written over 100 years ago, and still timely!  As we become more aware of how we literally “run” in our lives, the  value of prevention becomes even more critical. Enjoy this delightful commentary.

The Ambulance 
in the Valley

Joseph Malines 1895

‘Twas a dangerous cliff, as they freely confessed,


Though to walk near its crest was so pleasant:


But over its terrible edge there had slipped 
a duke and many a peasant;


So the people said something would have to be done.
 But their projects did not at all tally.

Some said, “Put a fence around the edge of the cliff”


Some, “An ambulance down in the valley.”

But the cry for the ambulance carried the day.
 For it spread to the neighboring city:


A fence may be useful or not, it is true,


But each heart became brimful of pity


For those who had slipped o’er that dangerous cliff,


And the dwellers in highway and alley


Gave pounds or gave pence, not to put up a fence,


But an ambulance down in the valley.

 

“For the cliff is alright if your careful,” they said,
”and if folks even slip or are dropping,
it isn’t the slipping that hurts them so much 
as the shock down below-when they’re stopping,

“
So day after day when these mishaps occurred,
 Quick forth would the rescuers sally


To pick up the victims who fell off the cliff,
 With their ambulance down in the valley.

Then an old man remarked, “it’s a marvel to me 
that people give far more attention 
to repairing results than to stopping the cause,


when they’d much better aim at prevention.


Let us stop at its source all this mischief, cried he.
”Come neighbors and friends, let us rally,


If the cliff we will fence, we might almost dispense
with the ambulance down in the valley.”

“Oh, he’s a fanatic.” the others rejoined:
”dispense with the ambulance Never!


He’d dispense with all charities, too, if he could:


no, no! We’ll support them forever.
 Aren’t we picking up folks just as fast as they fall?


And shall this man dictate to us? Shall he?


Why would people of sense stop to put up a fence?


While their ambulance works in the valley?”

But a sensible few who are practical too,


Will not bear with such nonsense much longer
.

They believe that prevention is better than cure


And their party will soon be the stronger


Encourage them, then with your purse, voice and pen


And (while other philanthropists dally)


They will scorn all pretense, and put up a stout fence


On the cliff that hangs over the valley.

 

From: The Best Loved Poems of the American People

Compiled by Hazel Felleman
, Published by Doubleday, 1936

What prevention measures do you take everyday in your life? What lifestyle efforts can you begin or restart that are truly prevention of chronic illness?  Will you build a fence now or just wait for something to happen? Disease happens over decades from poor preventative habits.  Begin now to improve your nutrition, sleep and rest, mobility and fun activities.  When you do
you won’t need an ambulance in the valley! Thumbs Up

 

It’s Only Change!

Change or transition in life is inevitable. Often time it is a good change, but can bring up uncertainty around the circumstances of change.

What humans fear most is the unknown. Why is that? We want to feel in control of our lives, but really that is an illusion too. We actually never know when change may occur. Change can bring sadness because we did not expect the change or want the new life situation that a divorce or death of a loved one can bring. But it’s only change! We adapt and flow and move on.

The biggest help we can give ourself is resiliency. The ability to adjust and adapt to new situations is most desirable. Moving through the emotions brought about by change is also a healthy response. And sometimes we just want support. We want a good friend or loved one to just listen to us as we talk our way through change.

With change comes wisdom. We can say, “I’m never going to do that again” or “next time I’ll know how to cope with the changes”. When life throws us a big or little change, breathing deeply helps. Then we can come to know ourself a little more. We can say, “Wow, I got through this and I  am still myself or even better”. Look back on your life and list some of the changes you have gone through. Be amazed at how well you managed it. It is important to give yourself credit for moving on and creating a better and healthier life.  When one door closes, another one opens.

It you want more help with a transition, coaching can be a great resource. Coaches are trained to ask the tough questions of you. Heal Your Life coaching will encourage you to take the difficult steps by first loving yourself unconditionally. I am available for coaching.

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Stretch Yourself with Change

The Next Big Step is a seminar for you to consider for support and self care while taking the next steps in your life. Join me at this July seminar to learn how to make the changes with ease and love.

 

 

 

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